Getting Started

First Steps to Proper Anal Etiquette

Automatic Relaxation

The very first step on your journey is mental preparation. Anal insertion can be uncomfortable or even painful, but you can greatly reduce that by being in the right frame of mind. You have muscles inside that can tighten involuntarily, and if you’re shaking with hesitation, they will. To overcome this, start by practicing automatic relaxation when you feel any anal stimulation. Whenever you’re touched there, don’t clench. Instead, relax. Relax all over—your entire body. Make a habit of doing this every time so it becomes automatic.

You can practice this by touching your own asshole, though you’ll make more progress if you’re able to recruit others to touch you there (even if it’s through your clothes). If you suffer from anxiety, this exercise can calm you down.

The First Plug

Your first butt plug can be very small. Though Pensa girls strive to go up and up to very large sizes, if you’re a beginner you have another step to take first. The purpose of wearing your first plug is only to get used to something, anything, being inside your ass. It’s a simple, safe trial run. You'll make sure you have the right lubricant, you’ll practice relaxation as it goes in, then you’ll get used to any discomfort. Even a small plug can be uncomfortable at first, but get through it. Give it several minutes, let your body calm down, and try to go about your activities so you don’t think about it.

Wear your small plug for an hour or two if you can. Try it again later, or the following day, and work up the duration you can keep it in. Four hours, eight hours, twelve hours. You can also sleep with it (really, you can). Just get used to it. It’s not big deal because it’s small plug.

It’s ok to stay at this stage for a week or two or as long as you need. You’ll find that what started as a little scary and uncomfortable is now trivial to do. You’re ready to go up in size.

Don’t skip to something huge. Your goal is size up to wearing a toy big enough that you feel pressure inside, but not painfully. The pressure is good and fulfilling. Focus on just how satisfying that pressure is. Learn to process it as positive, and even arousing.

After a few days, if you’re wearing it at least 12 hours per day like you should, that feeling of pressure will fade. It’s a signal you need to go up in size again. When you go up in size, ensure that the neck of your next plug is larger, not just the bulb. The neck is what holds your asshole open, so it’s important to get that good pressure there. A modest increase in size is about 0.25” wider (at the widest point).

Other People Knowing

You probably have the instinct to not tell anyone about this. Some of the benefits only come from other people knowing though. You don’t have to tell the entire world, but at least someone (besides your boyfriend) should know. The embarrassment you’ll feel is electrifying and empowering. Even boring activities will start have an extra charge to them, and you’ll process any embarrassment as a good-feeling tingle in your pussy.

You can start by telling just the women in our Discord chat that you’re full, and what size you are. Then ideally you’ll tell someone else, whether it be a friend, classmate, hairdresser, personal trainer, family member, stranger on the internet, etc. Remember that being a Pensa girl makes you a high value, socially. Men would much rather talk to and hang out with a woman they know has her asshole stuffed wide than an improper, empty girl. Letting someone else know you’re a Pensa girl shows that it’s not a negative thing to hide. It’s more of a brag and opportunity to be sexually empowered.

Good luck on your journey and let us know how it’s going.

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